Handling other people's foibles

During the COVID-19 pandemic, as I am working from home and rarely leaving the house, interacting with people other than my immediate family electronically, I'm finding that my noticing other people's foibles and imperfections is amplified, straining my ability to tolerate them. I find it increasingly difficult to extend the grace that God has given me to some people in my life. At the same time, I find myself counseling others that they need to extend grace to people for these very reasons. So I find myself saying what Paul said in  Rom 7:14 NASB

  For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate.

During my morning prayer to kick off my workday, (which also hasn't been happening like I want) I prayed about this, and these thoughts came to me, which I wanted to write down. Hence this post.

How do I do what I would like to do, rather than what I hate? First I have to indeed want to hate it. At the moment, I don't want to hate getting irritated by other people. I'm enjoying getting irritated and feeling superior. That's my flesh talking. So this morning, first I prayed that God help me extend the grace he's given me. But then I realized that I don't really want to extend it. So I changed my prayer to ask Him to get me to WANT to extend the grace. I do WANT to want to show grace. So that must be my regenerated spirit. Without a regenerate spirit, with Christ's life in me, I wouldn't be indwelt by the Holy Spirit, so I couldn't want anything other than to satisfy my flesh. So I think I'm on the right track today: at the very start of a potentially long track, but the right track at least.

I close with this famous passage from 1Cor 13:4-7 NASB 

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.